Maybe you’ve heard the classic song, “All I want for Christmas is my two front teeth.” It’s a great fun song that says if I had my two front teeth I could wish you Merry Christmas. So why would anyone (in their right mind) wish for their wisdom teeth? It seems that when we “get” them at 25 or 30 that they cause a lot of problems and pain. There is an old joke that says I’ve already cut my four wisdom teeth – I’ve volunteered, chaired a committee, been fired and bought a used car. Each of these can certainly be a learning experience. Some experiences have happy outcomes, others do not. And life continues to bring us experiences that can help us develop wisdom.
Scripture tells us that Jesus grew in wisdom and stature with both God and man.
There are dozens of proverbs in the Bible that extol instruction, learning, knowledge understanding, discernment, insight, judgment and wisdom. And there is a hierarchy, not only in the use of the words, but in an understanding of their meaning and value. The founding fathers of our country had a far more rigorous education than that being offered our own children today. Today’s emphasis is on the lowest rung of this intellectual hierarchy – the pursuit of knowledge. With our emphasis on facts and testing we cause our education to be both mind numbing and passionless. Our emphasis on memorization and regurgitation takes the life out of learning (making it dry bones) but even more importantly tends to exclude both the wonder and mystery of God and His creation.
Our challenge in Montessori is to use all of the God-given insights to reach the goals that God intended for His children. Our first challenge is to have our own minds transformed to the goal. Montessori is more than just doing a better job than what the competing educational philosophies offer. It is a totally different way of looking at the child, at education and at life. Montessori is a spiritual journey lived out in an educational setting. That is a starting place. Trying to make a concrete definition of Montessori education certainly includes concepts such as hands on, individualized, an environment, observation etc but these are trees in a unique forest. In “The Secret of Childhood” when Dr. Montessori wrote “There is no method, there is only the child.” she was emphasizing the relationship between the adult and the child and not concentrating on the ‘formula” of interactions. Interestingly, one does not “do” Montessori any more than one “does” Christianity. Both arise out of a relationship.
It is not just the method but the goal that truly differentiates Montessori education from the rest. A lot of educators do hands on, create environments and try to individualize but their results are not the same because they do not start with the same end in view – the transformed child. They start with wanting an educated child which is far different than a transformed or “normalized” child.
Dr. Montessori, like most pioneers and explorers, didn’t know what was on the other side of the educational mountain but after she made those discoveries she retraced her steps in order for others to be able to follow. She literally saw a promised land, populated with the new child and she was anxious to take others with her. It is again ironic given that so many people consider Montessori education a place where children can do “anything they want”, that the operative word in Montessori’s writing to bring about this transformation is the mundane and common word – training. But isn’t that what all schools of education consider that they are doing – training? Again, the difference about Montessori education is the end goal. And it is that end goal that changes everything.
Modern education sees learning to be about knowledge where God sees education to be about wisdom. You can have knowledge without wisdom but it is difficult to have wisdom without knowledge.
Most educational systems start with the training of the intellect. The insight Dr. Montessori was given was to start with the training of the senses. From that beginning she certainly moves on to the training of the intellect and her experiences led her to also look at the training of the spirit of the child. A deeply spiritual Catholic woman (her writings are filled with her Christian spiritual insights) she came to a realization that to meet the needs of the child she had to include the spiritual dimension.
But when she looks at the training of the will of the child she further separates herself from the rest of the educational field. Many educators, parents, and professionals for years have considered the “breaking” of the will of the child to be important. Dr. Montessori looks at the training of the will (which in the end may be of more significance than all the other trainings) as being crucial. Much of life is made up of small details and small actions that performed over a long period of time create an outcome not always envisioned from the beginning. A few calories extra each day become pounds. Actions become habits, habits become character. Acts of kindness practiced over a long period of time lead to an attitude of happiness and contentment. Constant complaining leads to its opposite.
So what is the singular action that both defines Montessori education and leads to the transformation of the child? It is choice - choice with all its attendant responsibilities, consequences and privileges. (It is this same choice that makes Christianity what it is – a relationship based on choice – “Choose you this day whom you will serve.”) It is not coercion but choice. Scripture is full of choice – choose life, choose wisdom, choose God.
It seems way too simple (most profound things are.) Choice! Choice is not the first word we use in describing Montessori education nor in explaining normalization. But what part of our description of Montessori is not touched and transformed by choice? Hands on, a prepared environment, individualized, working out mistakes, grace and courtesy, silence, freedom, discovery and on and on.
The significant difference in understanding the place of choice in transformation is that choice is not random or uninformed. Our experience shows that too much choice, overwhelming choice, paralyzes and does not free the child (or the adult). So what makes choice a blessing and not a curse? We come back to training. Again, Montessori is NOT doing just what you want but (like life) making wise choices. And this is the beginning point of transformation.
Knowledge alone is not enough. And knowledge alone and by itself does not confer wisdom. It has been said we gain experience by our own mistakes but we gain wisdom by observing the mistakes of others. Why do you think that the scriptures are full of moral and ethical failures – as well as grace and redemption? For us to learn wisdom! Scripture teaches that the “fear (the awe) of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.” And to make wise choices you have to have the options from which to make a choice. Defining Montessori as “meeting the needs of the child”, requires that the spiritual dimension, as well as the physical, emotional, intellectual and social components be present in the environment. It is not possible to choose what is not present. And to fail to acknowledge the majesty and awe of God and His creation is certainly to shortchange the “education” of our children.
Education has to be about more than just knowledge – it has to be about wisdom if our children are going to be able to love and serve God with their whole heart. And yet even wisdom by itself is not enough! Well, for Heaven’s sake what is enough? That is an excellent question for those of us who want to train, educate and nurture children to ponder.
Dr. Montessori came upon a revolutionary insight when she understood the need to train the child’s will. Most of us were raised in school and home with the emphasis on the “negation” of our will – doing what you’re told when your told to do it. There was little emphasis placed on choosing to do what’s right because it was what’s right. Movement in a Montessori environment is not negated or prohibited but it is directed toward a purposeful goal under the control of the child. Will, is accorded the same respect as movement – it has a purpose, it has a function, it needs to be under the child’s control
When Jesus was asked what is the most important commandment, He answered “Love the Lord your God with all you heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Loving God with our whole heart is the spirit; loving God with our soul are our senses; loving God with all our mind is the intellect but loving God with all our strength – has to be our will.
Solomon, the wisest man, had great knowledge and great wisdom and yet at the end of his life he followed strange gods. What was lacking in Solomon? Might it have been the will to do what is right?